When I was younger, I asked my youth pastor for the best advice he could offer me. He said to me, “It is simple: once you have made a commitment to someone or something, honor that commitment.” I have witnessed many different types of commitment over the years. I have watched friends of losing sports teams commit to a team even though they might be the laughing stock of the league for decades. I have watched friends who have committed to the military and served multiple tours even after they were no longer required to. I have watched my parents commit to each other for 55 years of marriage and I am amazed that each day they are still in love with one another.
You see, commitment is not just a feeling you have one day, it is a feeling you will have every day for the rest of your life. Commitment is staying through the great times and more importantly the tough times. It is facing adversity head-on even if you already know the results will not be good. Commitment is when you tell someone you will do something and not changing your mind because you might have fun being somewhere else. Commitment is seeing something through from start-to-finish and beyond.
I have witnessed many brothers make a commitment to Sigma Pi as a lifelong membership. I have also witnessed brothers turn their back on that commitment. They may have joined for the wrong reasons, did not see the benefit of membership, did not feel it was a priority in their life or did not want to participate anymore. Why would you take a lifelong oath only to give it up in a few years? If you are going to break your solemn obligation, then what else are you going to break? Your relationships? Your friendships? Your promises?
When you commit to something you stick with it. When you break a commitment to someone you lose a part of their trust. The same will happen when you commit to something in your chapter. When you commit to being at an event and you choose to do something else, your brothers lose faith in you. When they lose faith in you, then you become unreliable. When you are unreliable, then brothers quit asking for you to be involved. At this point, you either choose to change their minds and renew your commitment or you choose to leave and not be a part of the chapter.
So examine how you make commitments to your chapter and in your life. What have you done to help improve your chapter? Can your brothers count on you? Are you in this for now or are you in this for life?
I want to leave you with a quote from Kenneth H. Blanchard, “There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when it’s convenient. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses-only results.”